Dignity

Dignity

“Thanks so much for your email.  I cried when I read it but, this time, the crying was good – felt nourishing.

The emotion of “dignity” feels very right.  I was trying to get to “hope” because I thought that that would be the emotion that would serve me.  I could not get to “hope.”  Dignity, was right there.

So, I have been wearing ‘dignity’ for a few hours today, and have come up with this declaration: “I will not stand idly by as people spew their ill-will and hate.  I will stand up for my own legitimacy as a human being and for others. From this moment on, I stand to protect, cherish, and nourish humanity – mine, yours and everyone else’s”.

Since I connected with my dignity I have noticed that I am no longer afraid to declare that I am a Muslim... 

Disappointment

Disappointment

So, tomorrow is the election.  No matter how things turn out one thing is absolutely certain:  About half of the people wandering around your part of the world, that you run into at the supermarket or that you are stuck in traffic with will be disappointed. They may also be angry, disgusted, incredulous, irritated, despondent, livid or resigned but they will be above all disappointed.  Or, it might be you I’m talking about.

 

The other possible emotions are a bit more difficult to predict but disappointment is not.  It was completely predictable all along.  Ask yourself why that is.  What is it about the emotion of disappointment that makes it something we can expect and prepare for?  

 

 

Electing Emotions

Electing Emotions

To be honest I’ve been hesitant until now to write about the election in the U.S.  It seems to be a never ending saga full of unexpected twists and turns.  There is a mountain being written about it from many perspectives and varying motivations.  My motivation and perspective is to connect the experience we are in with emotions from an ontological perspective because this election cycle has been a veritable emotional symphony.

Emotions are co-creative with stories/beliefs and predispose us to specific actions.  With that as background, what emotions can we discern underneath all the stories we are hearing and all the ones we personally are making up?  

A good conversation is a great thing. And we never know where we’ll end up.

A good conversation is a great thing. And we never know where we’ll end up.

One of the great things about true conversations is that we end up learning things and exploring places we had no idea existed before. Sometimes they change the way we think and sometimes they reinforce it but somehow we see the world differently.

This week I am in Missouri where my father’s family originated visiting my mother and other relatives. I had a conversation with my uncle in which we were discussing the work I do with emotions. 

There’s no avoiding shame and that’s a good thing

There’s no avoiding shame and that’s a good thing

The first emotion I identified was shame.  I know that shame is telling me that “I believe I’ve broken the rules of my community”.  That made sense.  I have a relationship with the organization and clients based on honesty, transparency, and fairness.  If the errors were seen as intentional in some way it would certainly break those.  I believe that the reason some emotions feel so bad is to get our attention.